July 7 – Pretending Is Exhausting

3:189 – Pretending Is Exhausting

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Yesterday, we talked about how people may be sick or in pain but “look ok“. We also discussed how like sickness and pain, we are all commit sins that aren’t visible.

Part of that invisibility is the nature of pain, sickness, and sin. It’s below the skin and you can’t see what’s going on. The other part, and a part that I am guilty of, is pretending to be ok.

I am in severe pain right now but just went through two team meetings and a phone call with a friend without mentioning it. I was squirming in my seat and laying on the bed to stop the pain but wouldn’t say anything. My mind was more on the pain than the topics we were discussing. I was pretending to be ok to avoid sympathy or sounding like a whiner.

When we pretend, we hide away part of who we are. It can stop people from forming relationships with us and it’s exhausting. Pretending doesn’t help anyone. God knows all about us and our pain, why pretend?

  • 1 Samuel 16:7 – But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart
  • Psalm 34:8 – The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

I’m struggling a bit writing this due to pain. I know God heals all and knows all. We can’t hide from him and when we hide from those he put in front of us, we become tired, exhausted, and irritable.

If we can admit our pain, our sin, and our brokedness, we can heal. We can’t get help if we don’t ask for it. If people don’t know we are hurting, they can’t offer help.

Know that God is with you no matter how exhausted you are. He is close to the brokenhearted and crushed in spirit. He has chosen you based on what he knows about you. He sees through any pretending you may do. Let his people see who you truly are. So his work can be done.


Be open. Share your pain, your sin, and your soul. It’s not easy to do. But once you begin to open up, God can help you heal.


Father God, please heal us. We are sinners, we are in pain, and we are pretending to be fine to not burden others or seem weak. Let us move beyond the masks and pretending to be open with our brothers and sisters. Help us to ask for help when needed. Lord, we are weak but you are strong. Guide us, comfort us, and help us be open with one another and open with you. In your name, Amen.

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